We perceive everything as being separate from everything else, so special relationships make up our world. This perception of separateness appears to make some things more unique or valuable than others. We imbue these things with special significance and attach to them emotionally. The truth is that these things have no special significance, except what we give them. They are what they are, just diverse forms of the same thing.
This same phenomena also applies to people and relationships, because we view people as objects as well. Your insistence in viewing yourself as unique and separate promotes your perception of everyone else in the same manner. You regard some people in your life as more important or worthy of consideration than others.
It doesn’t matter if this specialness is judged as a positive connection, such as a parent or a spouse, or in a negative sense, such as Saddam Hussein or that idiot driver in the next lane. In either case, we create an emotional bond with that thought, which entrains us to the waveform of that person. We then begin to process their emotional patterns.
In the book, A Course in Miracles, it states, “Specialness always makes comparisons. It is established by a lack seen in another, and maintained by searching for, and keeping clear in sight, all lacks it can perceive… There is no dream of specialness, however hidden or disguised the form, however lovely it may seem to be, however much it delicately offers the hope of peace and the escape from pain, in which you suffer not your condemnation.”
David Hawkins explains in his book, I, and in his other books, Power vs. Force and The Eye of the I, that each of us is tied into a field of perception based on our level of consciousness. He says that, “A calibratable level of consciousness exists as an independent field that contains concordant thought forms attuned to the frequency of that attractor field. The field therefore sustains, supports, and gives a home to similar thought forms. If an individual mind attunes to that level of consciousness, the field tends to potentiate the emergence of associated thoughts. This may result in the phenomenon of entrainment as the associated emotions increase the energy of alignment and commitment to the field and its personification as me”
Our emotional attachment to our “specialness” and the perceived specialness of others causes us to connect to and align with the field of consciousness that the person is experiencing. We then begin to experience the emotions and participate in the thought forms that already exist at that level. If the person is a Christ or a Buddha, the associated field of consciousness can function as an attractor pattern, causing our thoughts to feel “elevated”, instead of realizing that they are merely another field of consciousness at a level closer to Source. If the person we entrain to is experiencing a lower level of consciousness, we begin to experience the emotional attachments to the thought forms and misperceptions inherent at that level as well.
The higher your own level of consciousness, the fewer misperceptions you have and the more aligned you are with correct perception. The progression of consciousness is the goal to spiritual development. David Hawkins gives us insight into how we can raise our level of consciousness. He says, “The most important element in facilitating an upward movement in consciousness is an attitude of willingness, which opens up the mind through new means of appraisal to the possible validity of new hypotheses.”
On the scale of consciousness, there are two critical points that allow for major advancement. The first is at 200 (he calls this level the level of integrity), the initial level of empowerment. Here, the willingness to stop blaming others and accept responsibility for one’s own actions, feelings, and beliefs arises. The second is at the 500 level, which is reached by accepting love and nonjudgmental forgiveness as a lifestyle, exercising unconditional kindness to all persons, things, and events without exception.
The awareness of context becomes progressively more important than content. It becomes obvious that the end does not justify the means and that integrity has greater pragmatic value then expediency. The source of happiness is discovered as an innate inner quality rather than something to be obtained. The innate beauty of all that exists becomes progressively apparent. All things become of equal value so that all life and all that exists are honored for their presence and the sheer fact of their existence. The perfection of all that exists stands forth, and the illusion of imperfection dissolves. Each and every thing is the perfect expression of its essence manifesting as its innate existence, simply by being what it is.
Our belief in specialness keeps us trapped at lower levels of consciousness. Giving up specialness is giving up nothing, because that is what it is – an illusion. Your spouse, your family, your friends are your special relationships. We think that we know these people, but what we know is only the reflection of ourselves. We do not know them, because to know them would be to know God. In their love, they have agreed to help and support you in your growth to full awareness, as you have agreed to help them. Honor and respect them and show your appreciation. Do not diminish them by subjecting them to your limited idea of specialness. They are beyond special. They are beyond description and explanation.
You are the face of God’s love.
The pure image of God’s creation
The instrument of God’s love expressed.
You are forever.
The manifestation of light.
Manifest light through love
In love we trust